Wedding dress, that is!
Going to be a shopping with my Mom, Auntie Mel, and my (also engaged) cousin Steph! (Congratulations, again, by the way!)
I'm sending out tons of positive energy to the universe, asking for and thinking that the stores we go to will have some amazing dresses for reasonable prices, and plenty of happy smiling people who are pleasant and courteous. (Hint hint universe... C'mon, it's a bridal shop! Everyone should be smiling!)
I plan to leave here right after work on friday (meaning I have to pack and get ready tomorrow!), and come back Sunday morning. Got my fingers crossed for good weather, too!
I won't be bringing M (Marley) because I'm pretty sure she'd not be allowed at Steph and Todd and Willy's place. She'll probably be pissed at me for 'abandoning' her, but I don't really have a choice, and it's only two nights! (Ten to one says she leaves 'presents' in the house while Chris is at work - if he has to work while I'm gone.)
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I am feeling the time crunch factor. For everything. For wedding planning (seeing that I probably won't have a weekday off during which I can do wedding stuff until the end of November, I am stressing about the idea of meeting my self-set deadline of December 15th, for having the reception and ceremony sites booked. I'm also stressed, because I know that every day that goes by, I risk not being able to book the places I want! Gah! Then there's the issue of having to put down a huge deposit on the site(s) Right. Before. Christmas. (insert terrifying scream here). That's all for the wedding stuff for now.).
As for finding time to clean the house, fold towels, clean up after/take out Marley, take care of Marley's necessities (clipping her incredibly fast growing nails - which is an arduous task, at best, and brushing her easily matted fur that I refuse to clip* lest she freeze in the colder months that are creeping up behind my back), eat healthy meals, exercise (jumping to conclusions? nah, more like running after Chris asking him questions about the wedding!**)... yeah, I barely have time to cram dishes into the dishwasher, or do laundry that's necessary (muddy and soaked work clothes - mine, actually. Chris is relatively dry at work.) I can't wait to be a SAHM, I know there is tons to do and very little time to do it when you have kids, especially first time SAHMs. But I just can't stop thinking that we will find the time to do the things that need to get done (I'm a dreamer) and that I will be able to make healthier meals, not only dinner, but breakfasts, and pack good lunches for Chris so he doesn't have to 'pick something up on the way to work'.
**He's actually quite good with it all. At first, he didn't know what was supposed to happen when or where or why (why do we need a marriage commissioner? - seriously), but after a good dinner out that started out as a 'let's go for coffee so I can explain this to you' sort of thing, we're more on the same page.
I mostly needed to realize that Chris hasn't been dreaming about weddings his whole life, and that when he was at the weddings he has attended, he wasn't memorizing every little detail for future reference, later picturing himself in a dress walking down the aisle to the man of his dreams. That toolk a weird turn. Um. Anyway... And he needed to realize that 'do what you want***' was NOT a good answer, because (as I explained) it made me feel like he took no interest AT ALL in what was supposed to be one of the most important days of our lives. We just had to take the time to see how the other person saw it all and felt, and since then, it's been great!
***Don't get me wrong, it wasn't said it in a bad way, it was just that he didn't understand the importance to me of his being a part of the planning, the ideas, the nitty-gritty of it all. I'm not going to make him pick out flowers, but I do want his input on the more important things, like what color shoes I should wear. Just kidding. But I plan on asking just about everytime there is something new or necessary going on. Because it's his wedding, too, and I don't want him to jsut show up! I want the whole planning process to be as memorable - in a good way - as the wedding will be!
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Other tidbits I've been meaning to blog, but haven't had the opportunity:
- It's been almost two months since Craig & Gen's awesome wedding, and I still haven't managed to get my crap together enough to post pictures and most importantly, upload the video of the 'haka maori' that was performed at the reception. It's not the best quality, but it's still cool. Very cool. If Craig or Gen (or anyone who is anxiously awaiting the viewing of the video I have) is reading this, I am very sorry. I just have been scatterbrained lately (delete button is overworked today, and thank gawd for spell check!), and really sore from work lately. (Not a good excuse, I know, but it's all I have.)
- My wrists are KILLING me. My left wrist keeps popping at work- not repeatedly through the day, but once or twice a week, and it just keeps it sore just enough to remind me it's there. And in my left one, the tenderness and sometimes outright pain has spread to the exact area where I badly sprained my thumb back in... April? Nope, after looking it up, it was June. Either way, I am tempted to wear a tensor bandage to work, but it would get trashed. Maybe I should at the very least start wearing the wrist supports on bad days, and exercise my wrist more on good days... 1 lb weights, here I come...
- Been off the sweet, sweet addiction for about 2 or 3 weeks, and succumbed today. I had a coffee. From Tim's. And, in my rush to get cleaning while I had a few minutes, I forgot about it, and ended up only drinking about 1/2 of it... (Don't tell Chris. Chris, if you are reading this... you saw nothing). I am now thinking about getting one tomorrow morning or at lunch time or something...
- Marley has been doing so much better since we got the report from the 'Animal Psychic' lady that Mom recommended. That is a huge post for another day, but let me just say this: I haven't had to strip the bed and wash the sheets two days in a row because Marley pooped on the bed since before I talked to this lady. And, AND, she's telling us when she has to go out. For me, she kinda woofs a little and wiggles, for Chris, she has an elaborate signal: She will sit on the one couch, move over to the couch he's on (this only applies to when he's on the couch though - kinda useless if he's in the kitchen) then she'll look right at him, jump down to the training pads we have on the floor for during the day accidents, circle a few times, and run to the door. Pretty freaking sweet.
- My arms are getting soooo toned from using the firehoses to clean the floor at work... I'll flex for you and show you... They're bigger than when I worked at Mark's and used to lift those massive pots full of bones and stock when they were scorching hot...
- I totally forgot to mention earlier, or I think I did, too lazy to check right now, that my ethical issues about working at a car wash have been long resolved. All of the chemicals that are used at the wash are completely biodegrable, and the containers they come in are recyclable (apparently the containers most car wash chemicals come in are extremely toxic, and have to be disposed of in a toxic waste site.), and my employers are environmentally conscious, as well as being awesome people and really cool bosses.
-After putting plastic on the windows in the house, almost every room has risen 3 degrees celcius, and I'm no longer freezing at night under 2-3 heavy blankets, with the heat cranked. Yay for insulating things. (Best part is, I can take down the plastic carefully, and label them and reuse them year after year. I would only need to replace the double sided tape!)
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I'm tired. I'm sore. My hand hurts. I want an orange.
I'm going to go eat an orange, soak in a hot tub, go to bed and go to work tomorrow morning and get more sore than I am today. :)
More to come eventually.
Going to be a shopping with my Mom, Auntie Mel, and my (also engaged) cousin Steph! (Congratulations, again, by the way!)
I'm sending out tons of positive energy to the universe, asking for and thinking that the stores we go to will have some amazing dresses for reasonable prices, and plenty of happy smiling people who are pleasant and courteous. (Hint hint universe... C'mon, it's a bridal shop! Everyone should be smiling!)
I plan to leave here right after work on friday (meaning I have to pack and get ready tomorrow!), and come back Sunday morning. Got my fingers crossed for good weather, too!
I won't be bringing M (Marley) because I'm pretty sure she'd not be allowed at Steph and Todd and Willy's place. She'll probably be pissed at me for 'abandoning' her, but I don't really have a choice, and it's only two nights! (Ten to one says she leaves 'presents' in the house while Chris is at work - if he has to work while I'm gone.)
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I am feeling the time crunch factor. For everything. For wedding planning (seeing that I probably won't have a weekday off during which I can do wedding stuff until the end of November, I am stressing about the idea of meeting my self-set deadline of December 15th, for having the reception and ceremony sites booked. I'm also stressed, because I know that every day that goes by, I risk not being able to book the places I want! Gah! Then there's the issue of having to put down a huge deposit on the site(s) Right. Before. Christmas. (insert terrifying scream here). That's all for the wedding stuff for now.).
As for finding time to clean the house, fold towels, clean up after/take out Marley, take care of Marley's necessities (clipping her incredibly fast growing nails - which is an arduous task, at best, and brushing her easily matted fur that I refuse to clip* lest she freeze in the colder months that are creeping up behind my back), eat healthy meals, exercise (jumping to conclusions? nah, more like running after Chris asking him questions about the wedding!**)... yeah, I barely have time to cram dishes into the dishwasher, or do laundry that's necessary (muddy and soaked work clothes - mine, actually. Chris is relatively dry at work.) I can't wait to be a SAHM, I know there is tons to do and very little time to do it when you have kids, especially first time SAHMs. But I just can't stop thinking that we will find the time to do the things that need to get done (I'm a dreamer) and that I will be able to make healthier meals, not only dinner, but breakfasts, and pack good lunches for Chris so he doesn't have to 'pick something up on the way to work'.
**He's actually quite good with it all. At first, he didn't know what was supposed to happen when or where or why (why do we need a marriage commissioner? - seriously), but after a good dinner out that started out as a 'let's go for coffee so I can explain this to you' sort of thing, we're more on the same page.
I mostly needed to realize that Chris hasn't been dreaming about weddings his whole life, and that when he was at the weddings he has attended, he wasn't memorizing every little detail for future reference, later picturing himself in a dress walking down the aisle to the man of his dreams. That toolk a weird turn. Um. Anyway... And he needed to realize that 'do what you want***' was NOT a good answer, because (as I explained) it made me feel like he took no interest AT ALL in what was supposed to be one of the most important days of our lives. We just had to take the time to see how the other person saw it all and felt, and since then, it's been great!
***Don't get me wrong, it wasn't said it in a bad way, it was just that he didn't understand the importance to me of his being a part of the planning, the ideas, the nitty-gritty of it all. I'm not going to make him pick out flowers, but I do want his input on the more important things, like what color shoes I should wear. Just kidding. But I plan on asking just about everytime there is something new or necessary going on. Because it's his wedding, too, and I don't want him to jsut show up! I want the whole planning process to be as memorable - in a good way - as the wedding will be!
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Other tidbits I've been meaning to blog, but haven't had the opportunity:
- It's been almost two months since Craig & Gen's awesome wedding, and I still haven't managed to get my crap together enough to post pictures and most importantly, upload the video of the 'haka maori' that was performed at the reception. It's not the best quality, but it's still cool. Very cool. If Craig or Gen (or anyone who is anxiously awaiting the viewing of the video I have) is reading this, I am very sorry. I just have been scatterbrained lately (delete button is overworked today, and thank gawd for spell check!), and really sore from work lately. (Not a good excuse, I know, but it's all I have.)
- My wrists are KILLING me. My left wrist keeps popping at work- not repeatedly through the day, but once or twice a week, and it just keeps it sore just enough to remind me it's there. And in my left one, the tenderness and sometimes outright pain has spread to the exact area where I badly sprained my thumb back in... April? Nope, after looking it up, it was June. Either way, I am tempted to wear a tensor bandage to work, but it would get trashed. Maybe I should at the very least start wearing the wrist supports on bad days, and exercise my wrist more on good days... 1 lb weights, here I come...
- Been off the sweet, sweet addiction for about 2 or 3 weeks, and succumbed today. I had a coffee. From Tim's. And, in my rush to get cleaning while I had a few minutes, I forgot about it, and ended up only drinking about 1/2 of it... (Don't tell Chris. Chris, if you are reading this... you saw nothing). I am now thinking about getting one tomorrow morning or at lunch time or something...
- Marley has been doing so much better since we got the report from the 'Animal Psychic' lady that Mom recommended. That is a huge post for another day, but let me just say this: I haven't had to strip the bed and wash the sheets two days in a row because Marley pooped on the bed since before I talked to this lady. And, AND, she's telling us when she has to go out. For me, she kinda woofs a little and wiggles, for Chris, she has an elaborate signal: She will sit on the one couch, move over to the couch he's on (this only applies to when he's on the couch though - kinda useless if he's in the kitchen) then she'll look right at him, jump down to the training pads we have on the floor for during the day accidents, circle a few times, and run to the door. Pretty freaking sweet.
- My arms are getting soooo toned from using the firehoses to clean the floor at work... I'll flex for you and show you... They're bigger than when I worked at Mark's and used to lift those massive pots full of bones and stock when they were scorching hot...
- I totally forgot to mention earlier, or I think I did, too lazy to check right now, that my ethical issues about working at a car wash have been long resolved. All of the chemicals that are used at the wash are completely biodegrable, and the containers they come in are recyclable (apparently the containers most car wash chemicals come in are extremely toxic, and have to be disposed of in a toxic waste site.), and my employers are environmentally conscious, as well as being awesome people and really cool bosses.
-After putting plastic on the windows in the house, almost every room has risen 3 degrees celcius, and I'm no longer freezing at night under 2-3 heavy blankets, with the heat cranked. Yay for insulating things. (Best part is, I can take down the plastic carefully, and label them and reuse them year after year. I would only need to replace the double sided tape!)
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I'm tired. I'm sore. My hand hurts. I want an orange.
I'm going to go eat an orange, soak in a hot tub, go to bed and go to work tomorrow morning and get more sore than I am today. :)
More to come eventually.
5 comments:
Hi Blaine!
I am very excited for you and your wedding dress shopping adventure! I too will send positive energy to the universe for you. By the way I am also staying at stephs on Friday night so i will see you there. I will also be bringing all of my wedding clip outs and stuff for you and steph. See you soon Gen.
OMG! Cool! Thanks! This is going to be soooo fun....
:D Are you coming shopping too?
B
Umm not too sure. I don't want to intrude on the mother doughter aunty cousin time:)Also it depends on what is going on with Craig.
Heya hon,
first of all, there is assloads more to do around the house when you have kids/are a SAHM but it's easier to get done because you can make it a part of the day. Get the kid/s to help with things, they LOVE being involved & having responsibility: Theya is my offical Lint Trap Cleaner & Dryer Sheet Depositer when I do laundry (plus, with the front loaders, she loves to help pull clothes out and put them in). She sits on the counter and helps me make nearly every meal -this is also (from what I've read) very helpful in teaching your kids to learn to eat well and responsibly!
I'm excited for you guys and your wedding plans. J was very involved with making our wedding plans and I really appreciated it. Yes, as much as it's typically the bride's role to do most of it, you're so right, it's HIS WEDDING TOO! If nothing else, you're helping ensure the day is more magical for him, too, by including him! :)
Good for you with your successes with Marley, I'm sure it's making HER a lot happier, too, to know that she can communicate with you guys and please you!
Man that was a long post.. what else was I gonna say..?
Nah, I'll shut up now.
:)
XOXO
I for one can't wait for you to post your pictures of the wedding. I haven't seen very many and I would love to. I am also looking forward to this weekend.
-Monarch
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