Wow.

As if reading Heather's side wasn't enough, her husband graciously and tactfully shared his side of living with Heather's disease. It is long, but well worth it. And gives me a lot to think about, a lot to ask Chris about.
 
:)
 
 
 

My story

Yesterday, I was pleasantly surprised to find that, as mentioned above, while checking blogs to see who has written, Monarch had written a wonderful blog. I read the blog from which she was inspired to write, and it gave me so many thoughts, I couldn't figure out what to write in the comments. I spent about a half hour writing different things, then deleting them, because I wasn't sure if it would come out right through the internet. (Things can be taken so wrong, even when they come with the best of intentions, so I figured I would just save it for an in person conversation.)

I am even a little unsure of what I am writing right now, because I have very mixed feelings about the whole topic.

(For those unaware, topic= antidepressant medication, and the stigma society puts on people who are taking them, who need them, just like people who have diebetes need insulin.)

I am not against those medications for the people that they help. Maybe I am in some sort of denial about the whole thing, but I still can't say that I was glad to be on them, that they helped.

I think they may have caused more problems in me than they helped. I think that my doctor at the time should have suggested therapy first, or even just more of a conversation about it.

Sigh. I guess I am going to have to start at The Beginning:

Way back in the day, I went on the pill. It was a screwed up time in my life already, and I started to feel scared of going to school. I was getting anxious, I was feeling sick to my stomach and had physical symptoms just from getting ready.

(Later on, I'd realized that the symptoms had been around for awhile, and I managed to figure out that my issue was that Cold Lake was my safety zone. I could go on trips about as far as Bonnyville. If we planned to go to St. Paul, Edmonton, even, I would start to feel sick. There was a few times when I managed to talk my parents out of taking me, because I would be spending so much time in the bathroom, sick, crying, upset. The very moment that they said I could stay home, I felt better. Within half an hour of their departure, I'd be back to normal.

If I seemed better and they suggested I come, it would slam back full force.

Obviously, that's not normal.)

I made an appointment with the doctor, and whie sitting in the waiting room, I had no idea what

I was going to say. I didn't have the words. I saw this little purple flyer advertising anxiety solutions of some kind, and because I didn't really understand anxiety at all. At the time, I was shocked. Like it blew my socks off. I read it a bit, and it sounded like it was talking about me.

I felt a lot of mixed emotions then, because I felt like someone had put that pamphlet there just for me. So that I would have the words to tell the doctor what I needed to say. I am still thankful for that pamphlet. Otherwise, who knows what I'd have said.

I went through the checklist, and there was one thing, ONE THING, that I didn't check off. I'd had a few minutes to process it when they called my name. He asked why I was there, I put the pamphlet with the little 'x' marks on it on his desk and said "that's why."

While discussing it, he said there was a few options. One was therapy. One was medication. One was both. I was overly eager to just get it over and done with. I wanted a quick fix, and I kind of resent the doctor for not noticing. (It was pretty obvious, I think). So I chose medication. I can't

remember if I went into therapy right away, too, or if I was just going to go back to see him to make sure everything was going okay.

Please keep in mind: I was 16 or 17, I can't remember now. Either way, I realize now, I shouldn't have been allowed to make that decision by myself.

The major factor that made me doubt my decision to go on the medication, was when I went home and told my Mom: "He put me on Paxil." I seem to recall she was baking cookies, and she came out of the kitchen, and was shocked. My brother was on that medication for about 6 months. He came off of it so easy, I thought I could do the same, and then everything would be

okay.

I went into this whole thing with unrealistic expectations.

Some of the things the doctor said really bugged me. Like the long list of side effects. Paxil, especially had been known to cause more problems than it fixed in people under 18, which is

why I think it really screwed me up.

When I was younger, I got so upset about things that I could no longer rationalize. Hell, I moved out when I turned 16. There was nothing wrong with my house. I told myself I couldn't live there anymore, and somehow managed to convince my boyfriend I needed to get out. I still have moments of intense guilt over the whole thing. I can't seem to forgive myself for what I put my parents, my brother through. (My brother was sitting on the couch watching while we moved my stuff out.)

I left a note on the stairs.

I was not thinking clearly.

I switched to the High School, lost contact with some of the best friends I've ever had. I ended

up moving back home.

I went through a horrible experience with folliculitus, right around the same time as the meningitus scare, on antibiotics for over a year and a half, the doctors didn't know what it was. I went to a specialist, got answers. I got a great job, working nights cleaning big trucks just outside of Bonnyville, got into a car accident. It was a slow night at work, I was sort of acting 'man-watch' while they cleaned the inside of a tank.

After driving for about 2 minutes I was too tired to drive, so I pulled over and slept for about 2

hours. I woke up because the sun was coming up, and cranked up the a/c and music, felt much better. I drove home, fell asleep a little past the mall and drove into the ditch, through a barbed wire fence, back out of the ditch, in front of the morning oilfield traffic, and finally stopped on the right side of the road.

A truck who had been following me stopped and the guy got out of his truck to see if I was okay.

At the exact moment I saw him get out of his truck, I freaked out. When I saw him get out of the truck, somehow in my mind that translated into: GET OUT!!! (Panic mode. I seemed to think the car was going to explode. That's movie influence for you.)

I called my parents, woke them up. (sorry). The guy who stopped to help me ended up having to pull me out of the middle of the road. I was standing in the lane while I called my parents. He had me sit in his truck while we waited for my Dad. I sat there, still shocked, and when my Dad came over to the truck, I lost it. I felt so horrible.

(Later on, I could barely believe my Mom was going to have me drive to the police station to fill out a report. I had just gotten into an accident, and she wanted me to drive their car? It's the whole 'gotta get back onto the horse' thing.)

Within a few weeks, I'd made plans to move to Bonnyville, so that I would be closer to the job, safer.

Well, I lost the job (another really long story, still think it was bs. The girl I was working with was cousins with one of the bosses, andshe got me fired for something I didn't do. They refused to listen. Oh well.) after we'd signed the contract for the apartment, but before we moved. So we still had to move.

Paxil was supposed to help. At first for a few months, it did.

I had a really hard time trying to find another job, a cross between stupid teenager mentality and pride didn't help. I got more and more depressed. I sat on the couch a lot, and lost interest in so many things.

A friend got me started in Cross-stitching, (and I still love doing it, just don't seem to be able to find the time.) and when I was doing that, my mood would be a little better. For the most part, I pulled away from everyone. I would sit on the floor in front of the window and just watch people going by, wondering how they do it, how they leave their house everyday.

We moved from Bonnyville to Pierceland - cheaper rent, near a bunch of friends. We all got jobs at the Wal-Mart in Cold Lake, and carpooled into town to work there.

That was okay. (Good part: met my best friend Jarrod there, he really helped me out a lot.)

I ended up hosting my 19th birthday party at our place in Pierceland, invited all of my friends over for hamburgers and hot dogs, and we all went into town that night to go to the bar. I had a great time, but apparently I'd managed to do something to upset one of my 'friends', who ended up telling everyone else that they were all going to stop being friends with me. And they did. (Some friends, hey? Glad they showed their true colours.) I even invited them all out to coffee to talk about it, so that I could find out. They all sat at a different table and didn't say anything to me, even when I asked. (Still kind of have trust issues now; I'm paranoid.)

ANYWAY, they all ditched me and it was really hard to deal with that, too.

I made a few new friends at my next job, working in the kitchen @ Mark's. I had some really bad anxiety about starting there, too. The first time Jim hired me, I called and told him I couldn't yet, explained that I was freaking out. I went back a few weeks later and felt much better. And did great, I think.

I don't remember when I did it, but I switched to a different medication: Zoloft. Thank God for Zoloft.

I think I had been having more problems with depression and anxiety, plus side effects were getting worse.

Zoloft was so much nicer. I wasn't on a rollercoaster anymore. I wasn't depressed. I felt more like me.

My friends at work became out of work friends, too. Nicole and Jim are still very important to me. (And Crystal, Nicole's daughter, is wonderful! I love hanging out with them!)

I still want to go back into cooking, but I think I could only do it if it were with Jim and Nicole.

We were a great team. The line never ran as smooth as when we were dancing on it. (Not literally, it was my term for our seemingly choreographed moves while really busy. We dodged around each other and never had any accidents in the almost 2 years we worked together.)

I still really miss that job. It was by far the best job I'd ever had, solely because of the people I was working with!

I did great for a little while, and started planning to move to Edmonton with Jarrod, where I hoped to go to school (for what, I have no idea, that's why I still haven't gone. Still don't know.).

About 2 months before we moved, my family went to Calgary for my cousin's wedding. We were

all packed, we were loading up the car, and anxiety struck me. I was in the bathroom for about an hour ish, off anf on, and my whole family was waiting. I just couldn't see myself going. I still don't know what it was about being out of Cold Lake & Area that freaked me out. (I'd even gone on a trip to Quebec for a week with school on an exchange thing about 3 years before... why couldn't I go to Calgary?)

I sat on a chair in the dining room and told my Mom, "I'd just as soon not go."

I'm not sure if she was frustrated, stressed out, or just fed up, but she said words that struck deep inside of me, and still do. I hear them anytime I doubt anything or get any anxiety at all: "If you can't even go to Calgary for the weekend, how are you going to move to Edmonton?"

That's all she needed to say. I sat up, felt better, said, let's go.

And we went.

I don't so much hear the Calgary/Edmonton thing anymore, but I hear "if you can't do this, if you get freaked out about this, how are you ever going to do anything else? Just go and do it."

(And now I'm in Hinton... of all places)

I went to Calgary, and had a great time. It was wonderful seeing the animals at the zoo and stuff, I still want to go back.

I moved to Edmonton that summer, met Chris, and found out he as just as, if not more, supportive than Jarrod. (And Jarrod helped him to understand all this previous sh!t I'd gone through to make me as quirky, yes, quirky, as I am.

I tried a few times in Edmonton to come off of the medication, and it didn't work very well.

We moved to Cold Lake, then to Hinton. I was on 100mg of Zoloft (sertraline) when we moved.

Hinton felt so right, so good, that our 3rd day here (September 5th, 2006) I only took 75mg.

(Chris and I had talked about it a LOT before we decided to try it. I told him all of the possibilities, and said that if he noticed any changes in my behaviour or attitude, or if I seemed to be depressed or anything, to let me know.)

We got Marley on January 17th, 2007, and in February, we decided I could try to go down to 50 mg. And I did. (I had talked to my doctor in Cold Lake extensively about coming off of the medications, and knew that if I had any problems at all, any noticeable mood changes, to go back to the previous dosage and go see a doctor.

Thankfully, I didn't need to.

I went to tell the doctor I was coming off of them, and every time I'd say "I wanted to let you know I am coming off of my antidepressants" they would sit up straighter and ask me a dozen questions. "How are you feeling? When did you decide this? Have you talked to a different doctor about this? Do you have someone who can make sure to let you know if you do seem to be having mood swings? etc, etc..."

I thought it was kind of funny. By the end of the appointment, they would just say, "Okay, you are doing everything right, thank you for coming in to let me know what's going on. Please come in again if you have ANY concerns."

I was glad to see that they cared. (Not sure why it was a surprise to me, even my previous doctor reacted similarily when I wanted to come off of the medications.)

Because I wanted to be careful and not come off of them too quickly, I started to take 50mg one day, then 25 mg the next, back up to 50 mg, that sort of thing. For about a week to 2 weeks.

Then after awhile at 25, and feeling great, I started going 25/0/25/0... for about a week. I still felt great, so I took one pill every 3 days instead of every 2. I was going to go to 4 days, but I felt so good, and was sooooo sick of that paper on the table telling me when to take how much (was doing that to keep track, so I wouldn't screw it all up.) that I just stopped taking them. (May

17th, 2007)

I felt great. I was emotional about it. It felt weird to not have to take a pill everyday (was still sort of taking antihistamines, though - but that became very infrequent).

Over the next few weeks, things became more clear, and I realized that I had been numbed by the pills. Everything felt so real. Everything looked real. I know this doesn't make much sense, but things became real again. I was overwhelmed by it, in a good way. Everyday there was something new I would notice, and it all made me so happy.

Now, pill-free for almost 7 months (in 2 days), I can't say for certain that I would be willing to go back onto them. (Dreading finding out wether I will have post-partum...)

They are live-saving for many people, and I think that they can do amazing things for the right people, but I also think a lot of people who don't need them are put on them every day, either by pill-pushing doctors, or just because they don't understand the circumstances, the risk, the side effects.

I was never embarrassed to tell people I was on them, I never felt like it was a weakness, or that I was flawed in any way. (I didn't really have any prescription drug coverage, though, so all of mine were out of pocket expenses, usually stressed out over, too.)

So far as I know, no one ever judged me when I told them I was on medication. They were for the most part very understanding. Some really couldn't care less.

I'm glad that they are helping people, but I am so glad to be off of them, too.

:)

This took me awhile to write. I've never come to terms with everything I went through. I kept blocking it out, I would talk about it once in awhile to certain people, but until I came off of the medication, I never really thought about it. I've been crying off and on throughout this entire

post.

I've been meaning to write this since May. Thank you Monarch, for the inspiration to finally

write it.

Oh crap. I forgot to clean the house. This took me almost 3 1/2 hours to write. Going to start that now...

Blaine to the rescue

 

I'm rescuing the floor, the table, the bathroom.
 
This mess has gotten out of hand!
 
(It's actually not that bad, but everytime we do a massive clean after letting it slide for a few weeks, especially with impending company... I freak out when there is a sock on the floor, flyers and cups on the table (and receipts and stuff I bought with which I will be baking next week...) and the bathroom just needs a really good clean...)
 
If people were to come over right NOW, I might lose it, and ask them to go for coffee for an hour and then come back! (Or just keep their eyes closed...)
 
But then we might have lawsuits on our hand, between Marley 'herding' our guests, furniture & walls, they'd most likely get injured. Dilemna... (wait, how the hell do you spell that word? Hold on...
 
Dictionary.com opened in another tab...
 
And: di·lem·ma   /dɪˈlɛmə/ 

–noun

1.	a situation requiring a choice between equally undesirable alternatives.

2.	any difficult or perplexing situation or problem.

3.	Logic. a form of syllogism in which the major premise is formed of two or more hypothetical propositions and the minor premise is a disjunctive proposition, as "If A, then B; if C then D. Either A or C. Therefore, either B or D."

 

the Encyclopedia's: A dilemma (Greek δί-λημμα "double proposition") is a problem offering two solutions or possibilities, of which neither is acceptable. The two options are often described as the horns of a dilemma, neither of which is comfortable.

Why did I think there was an 'n' in it?

Now I've completely lost my train of thought...

 

Oh well. (After reading that again... wow. Totally went off-base.)

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I am proud to say that I have not had a Tim Horton's (or any other) coffee in a week. That is huge considering my habit sometimes led me to TH twice in a day. I'd go there for lunch, then while on that end of town after work shopping, I would tell myself, while I'm here, I might as well stop there...

 

Still drinking Pepsi, though. But at least I'm not driving upwards of 15 minutes to go get it. (I can never understand after I've stopped drinking coffee for awhile how I used to rationalize the effect on the environment Just. For. A. Damn. Coffee.) - I know, I know, it's Tim's. I know! But, in the end, it is still just a coffee, and while it is DAMN good, I don't need it, my waistline doesn't need it, and the environment would be better off if I didn't have it.

 

And, as I keep learning, then faltering, one is not okay. One leads me to going back for more. Always. If I keep telling myself no, then I will be fine. I just need to not look at how not busy it always seems to be when I drive by.

 

It could be the quickest TH stop ever. Go figure. But, no.

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I have found a new addiction to keep my mind busy and TH free: Lochren, pictures of Lochren, hearing about Lochren.

 

Don't get me wrong, I am not obsessed or anything. I am, however, very excited that C, J & T now have a 'little' boy! A keen reader of my Aunties' Blogs, and viewer of my Auntie's pictures, I have been checking several times a day to see if there's more pictures, more lovely paragraphs about how he's doing, how T is liking her little brother, how happy C & J are to finally have him!

 

I completely understand how tired they must be, but like everyone else, want to know more! See more! (If I could drive there to see for myself, I would, but with the holidays coming up, I sure can't take time off!)

 

So, Chair, if you're reading this: You guys are in my thoughts, and I'm sending you tons of love! Hope that you are able to relax and sleep better, and I can't wait to visit!

 

:D

Got a DJ

ok... this is getting ridiculous how easy this has been...
 
Got the marriage commissioner, the ceremony and reception locations, the photographer and the dj.
 
And the dress. Such a great dress. Sigh...
 
I can't wait.
 
:)

I did a bad thing

After I've given up TH + Pepsi...
 
Since the 28th, when I gave them up, I've had about 4 coffees from TH, which isn't too bad for someone who went a full week without one, but today, I am regretting it COMPLETELY.
 
I got a coffee at around 2 when I was out bringing back recycling and grabbing some groceries...
 
I've had a little more than 1/2 and am now wearing a baseball hat, and turning off lights in the house.  OW. I am getting a migraine.
 
I feel soooo sick, and am going to try to keep cleaning the house, but have a feeling that it's a little too far gone for the Advil I am about to take to help. (Haven't gone to the doc about it, yet, they aren't that often, usually, or that bad. I know there are people out there who cannot do ANYTHING when they get a migraine, me, I can usually take a few advils, and wear a hat, and somewhat still function. The lights are really bugging me, and it's making the nausea a little stronger than normal, but I don't know if there's any connection to the coffee, or staring at the computer screen to type my last post...
 
Going to shut off the computer now, because this i just too painful.
 
Blaine

Running scared

Not me, the horses:

Had to start with this, because I found it hilarious (and sad at the same time, the poor horse was terrified, and running on the road. Traffic had stopped because it was obviously dangerous to continue, which scared the horse more).

I heard on the radio last week a few times about how the Town of Hinton has people whose job is to round up stray horses in and around Hinton. I thought it was kind of funny at first, that there would be so many stray horses that they have people who just go looking for horses.

BUT, considering it's the heavy snowfall breaking fences, and then the horses get loose near highways, and are terrified, it's really not so funny. They said on the radio that 64 horses were caught last year. They hold them for a certain amount of time, and if no one claims them, or if they don't have any ID on them, they go to Auction. (We were joking about trying to find a wallet on a horse, but that went horribly wrong!)

This particular horse was running free in Hinton, in town, and looked sooo scared. S/he went up to the person holding a bucket with some sort of food in it, but when traffic started to crawl again, the horse got freaked out again and backed away. (They were in a field, not too close to the road, but I am assuming it was just That Freaked Out. Poor guy/girl.)

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Re: Comments on last post... (using a format of replying 'stolen' from Chair...)

@Chair: It has literally been so easy, I feel super grateful! Don't get me wrong, I've gone through a fair share of stress about the wedding, and I know as it gets closer, I will most likely be freaking out, but so far, it has been sooooo easy, and very enjoyable, which makes it that much better!

(And I am thanking the universe everyday!)

@Monarch: Yeah, I've gotten some of the wedding shit together, and am trying this weekend to get the house's shit together! (It's a bit of a sty... nothing gross, just papers, receipts, wrapping paper, etc, all over the place!) As of today... I have 8 months to get my freak on! (And towards the end, I expect to be freaking!) Tomorrow, or even tonight if the house is ready... Chris and I will be putting up our seasonal decorations... (I know, I know, we're usually done by mid-November, but I was trying really hard to respect the fact that one of my friends HATES Christmas decor before his birthday on the 23rd of Nov. I also know it’s our choice, but after living with him for so long, now it just feels wrong to start decorating before the 24th. Chris might be able to change that, although I will still refuse to set up the tree before MY birthday. In August. (Yes, Chris asked to set it up in July.)

Ooh… ‘sumtin, sumtin’ sounds nice! I can’t wait… Thanks!
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I finally brought the recycling back today... Wow, there was a lot. And speaking of recycling! The Town of Hinton has heard the plea of it's residents! ("We want to be able to recycle more stuff locally!") In addition to the regular cardboard/office paper/mixed paper/milk jugs/cartons and plastic containers with a mouth that is smaller than it's base, we can now recycle clear glass, aluminum/tin cans, plastic bags (which I try to not use anyway), and old electronics (hint hint Chris!) They also have a really nice lady whose job is to make sure people are informed, and putting the right things in the right bins! Also, she's very helpful with the "where do I put cardboard that isn't corrugated cardboard?"

We still can't recycle 'other' plastics, like all the other crap that has the #'s on it... Like (embarrassed...) Tim Horton’s cup lids... slurpee cups... etc. Good thing I am giving up Tim's. While I was still going to TH, I was trying to bring my travel mug; I was just equally good at forgetting it by the sink after I rinsed it out as I was at remembering to bring it.

Oh well, I will just have to continue to pawn off the ‘other’ plastics on my family from Cold Lake when they come to visit, or remember to bring it there when I go to visit! I should check and see if Edson takes plastic… Chris could bring it before work! Or after…
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Speaking of Edson… while the roads haven’t been too bad, I am still really nervous about Chris driving to and from work. And, while he doesn’t outright say it, I think it really bothers him, too. He says he doesn’t like driving when he’s tired, but I think it’s the whole thing. (And when he tells people about all of this, he says that we will be moving to Edson because I worry. Blames it all on me! I don’t mind, because it is mostly true.)

There’s also the fact that when Chris is working the yard job and he’s got 3 hours in between things to do, he has very little to do, and gets VERY. BORED. Which is why he has a PSP again (Chris bought it a few years ago, sold it to Willy, and just bought it back…).

What I am sort of kind of trying to say… we’re planning to move to Edson. At the latest (pending everything going good), we will be moving after the wedding. At the earliest, we might be moving in the spring.

Good things:
-Chris closer to work, safer, less overall driving time, more time with Blaine!
-When we go to Edmonton/Cold Lake/anywhere East, we’ll be about an hour closer!
-We will most likely be owning our own house, and depending on how it works out with Chris’s work, we might be able to start a family in 2009… :D (Big freakin’ grin!)

Bad things:
-Further away from the mountains.
-Further from Jasper. (BUT, we will appreciate the views, and our visits much more, not living quite so close.)
-Have to change doctors again. I really liked the one I had in Cold Lake, really like the one I have here in Hinton… I guess I could probably make the trip to Hinton if I really can’t find one I like in Edson… For awhile. Definitely not forever.

I think the good makes it worth the bad.
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It's barely warmed up past -15 (-20 with wind chill) here, and while that's not too bad for Canadian Winters, Marley would beg to differ. When we take her out, if we don't have something on her feet, she starts limping within about a minute. Mom guessed she may have had frostbite sometime in her past, which would make her paws incredibly sensitive to the cold. (We got her last January, but it was a lot warmer out, still... and I made her some booties right away...)

We went to the pet store, and bought these awesome little boties, much more durable than the ones I made, with rubber soles for better traction, and a little zipper and velcro strap to try to keep them on. The only problem with them (besides Marley HATED them) was that to get some that her Polar Bear paws would fit in, they were too thick for her legs. We couldn't get them to stay on where they were supposed to, so they slipped half off, and she was walking on the backs of them, looking at me like "This is torture, and humiliating!" while she was trying to get picked up, NOW!

So we brought them back, and the booties I made last year are, so far, working. We only lost one bootie, twice, and found it again the next morning.

I think she knows when I am writing about her, because she's looking at me like she does when we talk about her. Kind of weird.

She's been a bit of a suck again lately...

She's not fond of change, and we're getting the decorations out, the wrapping paper...

Just more stuff to scare her!

:)

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DECEMBER BEAN WATCH STILL ONGOING!!!

I have the list of who guessed boy/girl/date/time/year... etc... And am waiting to hear more from the Bean-bearer! (or whoever is designated to make the phone calls to everyone...)

:D Blaine

Getting there...

Wedding update:
 
Got the commissioner. Got the location and reception places booked, and rooms blocked. (Need to send out the information soonish I guess, too... add that to my to-do list...)
 
Got the photographer! Yay!
Got a dress... as mentioned in a previous post...
Still need to get a DJ, bridesmaid dresses, invitations... and some other stuff, too.
But for the most part, we're starting to be able to relax a bit...
 
YAY!!!
 

 
 
 

A little bit

 freaked out.
 
Went to the doctor today for a somewhat overdue check up and am going to the hospital tomorrow morning to get some blood work done.
 
Um... anybody who doesn't want to know too much about me should skip the next few paragraphs...
 
I have had irregular periods for awhile - few years now - and was even advised to talk to my doc about it from someone who has had similar symptoms and was diagnosed with something that I think (emailed to confirm) is the same thing.
 
So... Here's what my doc is testing for:
 
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS)
 
Symptoms include:
 

infrequent menstrual periods, no menstrual periods, and/or irregular bleeding   (Have) 

infertility (not able to get pregnant) because of not ovulating  (Don't know)

increased hair growth on the face, chest, stomach, back, thumbs, or toes—a condition called hirsutism (HER-suh-tiz-um) (DON'T HAVE - that I know of...)

ovarian cysts (Don't know yet)

acne, oily skin, or dandruff (somewhat yes, yes and maybe a little bit)

weight gain or obesity, usually carrying extra weight around the waist (hmmm... Yeah, I got that...)

insulin resistance or type 2 diabetes (Don't know - being tested)

high cholesterol (Don't know - being tested I think)

high blood pressure (Normal)

male-pattern baldness or thinning hair (Not that I'm aware of...) 

patches of thickened and dark brown or black skin on the neck, arms, breasts, or thighs (Ummm... no. Got some moles, tho. They look normal according to the doc.) 

skin tags, or tiny excess flaps of skin in the armpits or neck area (Yup. Started when I was a teenager... hmmm...) 

pelvic pain (YUP. randomly throughout the month, too. No pattern.)

anxiety or depression due to appearance and/or infertility (I've come to terms with how I look, I like everything except the extra weight, BUT I am not depressed about it. If I found out I was infertile, I'd be crying for weeks. That scares the crap out of me.) 

sleep apnea—excessive snoring and times when breathing stops while asleep (I'll have to ask Chris about this one. I don't think I snore, but the stopping breathing thing... I do that sometimes when I'm awake. Sort of. I think.)

 
After reviewing the above symptoms, my first thought is "F.U.C.K."
 
I know that until I hear from the doctor, worrying is absolutely useless. But I sure can't help it. This is why I avoided even going to the doctor way back in, uh, 2005... It's really ironic thinking. I'm scared I will be told I can't ever have kids, and yet, I postpone the trip to the person who may be able to fix it if it comes to that. All the while knowing that any type of problem like this that comes up is ALWAYS better when it's caught early.
 
Sometimes I do really stupid things.
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ANYWAY.
 
Onto better news.
 
Today I went to see The Guy From The Jasper Hotels We Are Looking At To Have The Wedding At. (Or TGFTJHWALATHTW for 'short'.)
 
Got some confirmation about the ceremony and reception locations... They're ours! Yay!
 
We haven't signed the contract, BUT I have a copy of the contract with me, to review, and we can fill it out/sign and fax or email it to him!
 
Yay!
 
So, we are a few steps closer...
 
I was complimented a few times today, and felt so good about them I wanted to post about them. Just 'cause I can.
 
My doctor (while discussing past history and medications and my lack of being on birth control pills) after I said that I've wanted to have kids for as long as I can remember, told me that I look like a mom. Then he back tracked a lot, and told me to not get upset. (!?!?! Apparently he's had a lot of people take offense to that comment, as he explained.) He said he wasn't sure how else to say it, then he sort of came up with it, and said that what he meant was that I seemed like the caring type.
 
Later on, I was told by TGFTJHWALATHTW that I was very organized, and 'on the ball'. He said that because I was so calm, and making sure the little things are worked out early made his job really easy. He said that meeting with me is a pleasure and that I am very easy to work with!
 
Maybe now, but when I'm stressed out the week before the wedding might be a different story.
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I've got a bunch of photos I need to go through and organize and upload, and some videos of Chris working that I'd like to upload, too.
 
:)

Craig & Gen's wedding HAKA MAORI finally uploaded!

OK, I know it's been over 2 months, and I apologize!
 
BUT, I think it was well worth the wait. I have uploaded pictures of the wedding here:
 
http://www.flickr.com/photos/theanykey/sets/72157603024659817/
 
And, drum roll please... I finally figured out how to get into youtube (use a different email address!),
and as I know you've been waiting long enough:
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3YoDdrzmvNE
 
Again, I am sorry it took so long, I hope you all enjoy it!
 
Love, Blaine

 
 
 

Got pix posted... finally

Sorry about the late posting, C&G... and Mel.
 
I will have to figure out my youtube login to upload the Haka Maori... :)

Not making it to Cold Lake

Even with the new tires, I just can't get past the feeling in my gut saying to not go.
 
I will probably try again before Christmas.
 
Besides the $$$ factor, there's a million little things adding up that just make me uneasy. The risk of freezing rain for the beginning half and the last quarter of the trip to Cold Lake (and the likelihood that it will remain the same forecast for the return trip doesn't help) really scares me. Last year on a trip to Cold Lake, Chris was driving, I was trying to snooze, and out of nowhere, we hit a patch of black ice, and the car turned sideways. Literally. While we were going about 100 km/hr - I think, I wasn't exactly keeping track - which is slower than the speed limit.
 
It made me sit up super quick, and started to freak out. After we felt it might be safe to, I had Chris pull over and I broke down. It sucked. After that, I was terrified the whole trip.
 
So, all things considered, I decided it's safer to stay put, clean the house, get some long-awaited pictures uploaded (C+G), and some other stuff done.
 
While I'm not indulging in the craziness that is NoBloPoMo, I plan to post again this weekend because I'll have a lot to say! After I get some of the things done, I will have a lot to tell you. So check back later on.
 
:) Sorry I won't see you this weekend.
 


 

 
 
 

Just need bridesmaid dresses now...

Well... As some of you know, the dress shopping went very well. VERY WELL!

 

Steph found a dress in 3. Mine was 5th. But I left and then decided I had to go back, I wanted it, couldn't stop thinking about it!

 

It was a wonderful weekend, but I am still very glad to be home. The city is so loud, so busy... too many people. I'm not used to people. At all, anymore, really!

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Obviously, I won't be posting pictures of the dress shopping experience simply because of the potential fiance leak factor... Meaning that Chris or Todd might get their hands (eyes?) on them!

 

Maybe I will blur out everything but the faces, so I can at least show how happy we all were. And it was so much fun!

 

We went around picking out dresses and just put clips on the hangers, then got shown to our rooms and we met with our individual consultants. It was super fancy, but at the same time, very laid back and relaxing.

 

My consultant was named Julie, and was wonderful. She was knowledgeable, answered all of my questions, responded to all of my concerns thoughtfully and even suggested I try on styles I outright decided that I did not like, so that I know for sure. (This, of course is after she asked why I didn't want to try on any strapless gowns. I just assumed that a strapless would mean I'd be pulling up the gown all day/night long, and she explained how it would support, and how it should fit. She brought one over that she thought I might like, and I loved it, it was comfortable and glorious, but not right for me. I was still expecting to be too self conscious about my arms and that weird little 'pouch' that magically appears when you put on a strapless dress. And, pending my ability to lose weight/tone before the wedding, I didn't want to be disappointed/unhappy with how I look/feel on my wedding day.)

 

Either way, the dress I chose suits me perfectly, I think, and considering everyone else's reaction when I was stepped out of the change room…

 

Well, for a while it was between 2 dresses, until Mel pointed out (THANK YOU!) that the dress I chose only looked second because of the color difference. White made me look washed out, and it was white. Very white. So, I pictured the white dress in the colour of the other one, and couldn't stop thinking about it. So, after we dicided to think about it, I wanted to go back.

 

And now I can't stop thinking about it. I also have another problem. I share everything with Chris. It's killing me to hold back and not tell him every detail about the dress, show him pictures…

 

But he's said that he doesn't want to know, see or hear anything about it until The Day.

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It has been very, very windy around here lately, and it seems the planning of my workplace did not take that into consideration. I've been somewhat forced to walk from the office to the bays with my eyes closed.

 

Something else I re-discovered: a Strong gust of wind can blow your eyelashes around so that they tickle the tops of your eyes. It's kind of cool.

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Warning: Somewhat selfish sounding rant ahead.

 

After trying to keep our house somewhat reasonably clean, I am looking more and more forward to the days I get off. However, I am feeling stressed, because I know that if I spend all of this weekend cleaning, I won't have fully relaxed, and I can't count on next weekend to catch up on relaxing, because I will be driving 7 hours on Thursday (8^th) and another 7 hours on the 11^th, in time to go back to work.

 

The weekend after I have plans to travel to Edmonton to hang out with Jarrod for his birthday for the whole Saturday, even though his birthday isn't actually until the following Friday… I just figured I would leave him his actual birthday so he can go to Cold Lake, or whatever.

 

So it will most likely be at least 3 weeks before I can have a weekend to myself, at home, doing nothing. So I am afraid I've wasted all of last night, and all day today.

 

I have been afraid to start cleaning too much, lest I use up all of 'my' time and end up stressed all week.

 

Chris was supposed to be home tonight after the yard job, and he was going to refuse (it's complicated, but he would have been allowed to) to work on Sunday. So we could spend the day together.

 

At around 5 p.m. he called to tell me he was about to go out on a coal train, meaning he'd get home around 9 a.m. tomorrow.

 

Needless to say, I am a little disappointed, but he wasn't feeling well earlier this week and so he took time off, and I expect he's trying to make up the time on this trip (which will definitely do it). I just wanted to spend the weekend with him, and I know he thinks we still can, but with him getting home at 9 a.m. ish, it means he will be sleeping/exhausted tomorrow, and it would be hard for him to have a good day if he tries to stay awake when he should sleep.

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I have plans to upload a bunch of pictures, I've gotten them ready, I just need to sit down and upload them… So they will be uploaded within a reasonable timeframe.

 

J

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I've finally gotten into contact with the company that owns the bunch of hotels in Jasper that we've been looking at, and it looks like they have no bookings at all for the week we want to get married.

 

The representative said that the location we want for the ceremony is as good as ours, but that he might have some trouble getting the place we want for our reception, because they advertise it as the lounge for the hotel in the summer months. (I assume it's also the lounge in the winter.) I emailed back that I plan to reserve a block of rooms for all of my guests to reserve if they decide to, and so I hope that that will help sway their decision. If half (?) of the hotel is booked by our guests, there won't be as many complaints about the lounge's inaccessibility.

 

I hope to meet with them by the 15^th, and find out how much of a deposit we'll need to put down.

 

J J J J J J J J

 
 
 

Going Dress Shopping!

Wedding dress, that is!

Going to be a shopping with my Mom, Auntie Mel, and my (also engaged) cousin Steph! (Congratulations, again, by the way!)

I'm sending out tons of positive energy to the universe, asking for and thinking that the stores we go to will have some amazing dresses for reasonable prices, and plenty of happy smiling people who are pleasant and courteous. (Hint hint universe... C'mon, it's a bridal shop! Everyone should be smiling!)

I plan to leave here right after work on friday (meaning I have to pack and get ready tomorrow!), and come back Sunday morning. Got my fingers crossed for good weather, too!

I won't be bringing M (Marley) because I'm pretty sure she'd not be allowed at Steph and Todd and Willy's place. She'll probably be pissed at me for 'abandoning' her, but I don't really have a choice, and it's only two nights! (Ten to one says she leaves 'presents' in the house while Chris is at work - if he has to work while I'm gone.)
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I am feeling the time crunch factor. For everything. For wedding planning (seeing that I probably won't have a weekday off during which I can do wedding stuff until the end of November, I am stressing about the idea of meeting my self-set deadline of December 15th, for having the reception and ceremony sites booked. I'm also stressed, because I know that every day that goes by, I risk not being able to book the places I want! Gah! Then there's the issue of having to put down a huge deposit on the site(s) Right. Before. Christmas. (insert terrifying scream here). That's all for the wedding stuff for now.).

As for finding time to clean the house, fold towels, clean up after/take out Marley, take care of Marley's necessities (clipping her incredibly fast growing nails - which is an arduous task, at best, and brushing her easily matted fur that I refuse to clip* lest she freeze in the colder months that are creeping up behind my back), eat healthy meals, exercise (jumping to conclusions? nah, more like running after Chris asking him questions about the wedding!**)... yeah, I barely have time to cram dishes into the dishwasher, or do laundry that's necessary (muddy and soaked work clothes - mine, actually. Chris is relatively dry at work.) I can't wait to be a SAHM, I know there is tons to do and very little time to do it when you have kids, especially first time SAHMs. But I just can't stop thinking that we will find the time to do the things that need to get done (I'm a dreamer) and that I will be able to make healthier meals, not only dinner, but breakfasts, and pack good lunches for Chris so he doesn't have to 'pick something up on the way to work'.

**He's actually quite good with it all. At first, he didn't know what was supposed to happen when or where or why (why do we need a marriage commissioner? - seriously), but after a good dinner out that started out as a 'let's go for coffee so I can explain this to you' sort of thing, we're more on the same page.
I mostly needed to realize that Chris hasn't been dreaming about weddings his whole life, and that when he was at the weddings he has attended, he wasn't memorizing every little detail for future reference, later picturing himself in a dress walking down the aisle to the man of his dreams. That toolk a weird turn. Um. Anyway... And he needed to realize that 'do what you want***' was NOT a good answer, because (as I explained) it made me feel like he took no interest AT ALL in what was supposed to be one of the most important days of our lives. We just had to take the time to see how the other person saw it all and felt, and since then, it's been great!

***Don't get me wrong, it wasn't said it in a bad way, it was just that he didn't understand the importance to me of his being a part of the planning, the ideas, the nitty-gritty of it all. I'm not going to make him pick out flowers, but I do want his input on the more important things, like what color shoes I should wear. Just kidding. But I plan on asking just about everytime there is something new or necessary going on. Because it's his wedding, too, and I don't want him to jsut show up! I want the whole planning process to be as memorable - in a good way - as the wedding will be!
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Other tidbits I've been meaning to blog, but haven't had the opportunity:

- It's been almost two months since Craig & Gen's awesome wedding, and I still haven't managed to get my crap together enough to post pictures and most importantly, upload the video of the 'haka maori' that was performed at the reception. It's not the best quality, but it's still cool. Very cool. If Craig or Gen (or anyone who is anxiously awaiting the viewing of the video I have) is reading this, I am very sorry. I just have been scatterbrained lately (delete button is overworked today, and thank gawd for spell check!), and really sore from work lately. (Not a good excuse, I know, but it's all I have.)

- My wrists are KILLING me. My left wrist keeps popping at work- not repeatedly through the day, but once or twice a week, and it just keeps it sore just enough to remind me it's there. And in my left one, the tenderness and sometimes outright pain has spread to the exact area where I badly sprained my thumb back in... April? Nope, after looking it up, it was June. Either way, I am tempted to wear a tensor bandage to work, but it would get trashed. Maybe I should at the very least start wearing the wrist supports on bad days, and exercise my wrist more on good days... 1 lb weights, here I come...

- Been off the sweet, sweet addiction for about 2 or 3 weeks, and succumbed today. I had a coffee. From Tim's. And, in my rush to get cleaning while I had a few minutes, I forgot about it, and ended up only drinking about 1/2 of it... (Don't tell Chris. Chris, if you are reading this... you saw nothing). I am now thinking about getting one tomorrow morning or at lunch time or something...

- Marley has been doing so much better since we got the report from the 'Animal Psychic' lady that Mom recommended. That is a huge post for another day, but let me just say this: I haven't had to strip the bed and wash the sheets two days in a row because Marley pooped on the bed since before I talked to this lady. And, AND, she's telling us when she has to go out. For me, she kinda woofs a little and wiggles, for Chris, she has an elaborate signal: She will sit on the one couch, move over to the couch he's on (this only applies to when he's on the couch though - kinda useless if he's in the kitchen) then she'll look right at him, jump down to the training pads we have on the floor for during the day accidents, circle a few times, and run to the door. Pretty freaking sweet.

- My arms are getting soooo toned from using the firehoses to clean the floor at work... I'll flex for you and show you... They're bigger than when I worked at Mark's and used to lift those massive pots full of bones and stock when they were scorching hot...

- I totally forgot to mention earlier, or I think I did, too lazy to check right now, that my ethical issues about working at a car wash have been long resolved. All of the chemicals that are used at the wash are completely biodegrable, and the containers they come in are recyclable (apparently the containers most car wash chemicals come in are extremely toxic, and have to be disposed of in a toxic waste site.), and my employers are environmentally conscious, as well as being awesome people and really cool bosses.

-After putting plastic on the windows in the house, almost every room has risen 3 degrees celcius, and I'm no longer freezing at night under 2-3 heavy blankets, with the heat cranked. Yay for insulating things. (Best part is, I can take down the plastic carefully, and label them and reuse them year after year. I would only need to replace the double sided tape!)
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I'm tired. I'm sore. My hand hurts. I want an orange.

I'm going to go eat an orange, soak in a hot tub, go to bed and go to work tomorrow morning and get more sore than I am today. :)

More to come eventually.